Sex & the Single Woman: Boyle’s Theory of Relativity
My roommate has a theory.
She has spent extensive time observing couples and relationships and has decided that there are three categories of people.
The first group are who she deems to be “beautiful.” These are the ones we lust after but never have, who we watch from afar.
The second group are people who are unique and, therefore, an elite group in themselves. They are independent and defy the norm.
According to my roommate, each of these groups dates exclusively within themselves. They are always coupled up because they stick together.
The third group is those of us in between. She calls them “completely normal,” but really I think they are too diverse to fit into just one group. As the theory goes, the people in this third group never date, because they are always seeking out people in the first two groups and fail to look around and see what is right in front of them.
I don’t know how I feel about this theory, but it certainly raises some questions. Who knows, maybe someday she will publish it.
–Maggie
Sex & the Single Woman: Game Over
Tonight’s long-distance dedication goes out to my roommate, whose ex-boyfriend is playing games.
He’s in Spain, she’s in America. He Skypes her like its her job.
The problem is that he is her EX-boyfriend. They broke up six months ago and really haven’t seen each other since then.
So why is he choosing now to Skype her, to constantly talk to her, to lead her on and make her think he wants to get back together?
Why do guys wait until we are both emotionally and physically unavailable to try and make things happen? Do they not understand that there may not be any mountains high enough to keep us from getting to them, but there are certainly oceans wide enough.
Do you have problems with guys coming back when it is too late?
–Maggie
Sex & the Single Woman: One Word
I am never one to turn down a compliment, but if a guy is going to flatter me, certain descriptions are admittedly far superior.
Case in point: a certain guy on the radar called me “beautiful.”
Hold the phone. Now sexy, hot, and cute are all fantastic complements too. But if a guy I am getting to know has to describe me in one word, I’m not going to protest if it’s “beautiful.”
I am clearly biased, being interested in this guy and all, but at the same I think that the connotations of “beautiful” extend to more than just the physical. Or maybe it’s just me.
Either way, I will give mad props to the guy in general. A little flattery never hurt anyone.
–Maggie
Sex & the Single Woman: Breaking Barriers or Increasing Awkwardness?
Hope is on the horizon.
A new guy has entered the scene and right now the prospects are looking promising. Now I don’t want to jinx myself (and yes, I do believe in jinxes) but I think this one might have potential to turn into something.
Over the weekend I ran into him (yesssssss) and I think things went pretty well (double yesss!). The only possible issue was one that is present in many social events: alcohol.
Now whether a person drinks or not doesn’t matter to me. I completely understand the benefit of a little liquid courage. However, I am intrigued by how much of an effect the alcohol can have.
In this case, it definitely broke down some barriers and just relaxed the mood in general. I think we were both a little nervous and it was good to kill the tension.
In some cases, though, I wonder if it really is beneficial to drink at all, even if it is just a glass of wine or two. Does it encourage you to go too far out on a limb? Do you get too relaxed? Will the next time you see each other be just a touch awkward?
Luckily, I ran into the guy the next day (triple yesss!) and things were, amazingly, even better than before.
But what do you think–is it better to completely leave alcohol out of any dating situation when you are still getting to know a guy?
–Maggie
Sex & the Single Woman: Predestination
I always think it’s interesting when I find patterns in my dating life.
Now I am familiar with situations that bring people together. I have heard that traveling can create a bond in two people that is like no other. But in my own life, I have noticed that there are certain situations that cause me to fall for guys, and fast.
So are there situations in which we are predestined to meet people and fall for them? Once thrown into these situations, will we convince ourselves to become attracted to guys? Or is it all just coincidence?
–Maggie
