Sex & the Single Woman: STFU Parents
I love kids. I truly, truly do. And I’d like to have some of my own one day.
Still, there are times when a single girl like me gets a wee fed up listening to parent friends go on (and on and on) about EVERY SINGLE THING their little ones get up to. Especially when that includes a hourly recap of Junior’s potty training or little Ava’s spit-up. Save that for your therapist, not your Facebook update!
Now, whenever I start to lapse into those “why I aren’t I married/having kids/one of those women who bakes their bread and makes quilts” depressions I direct my browser to STFU Parents, a snarky blog which takes a no-holds-barred approach to all of the poopy Facebook updates, sonogram profile photos, and nauseating, holier-than-thou “how dare you say you’re tired when you don’t even have a kid?” comments made by parents.
It’s better than birth control, I swear—not to mention a great reminder to keep my own puppy-eyed yipping about my adorable nephew to a minimum.
-Erin
I hate when all women can do is talk about their children. I get it– kids are cute, especially when they are your own. But I don’t understand how as soon as a woman becomes a mother, she changes into a completely different person to her friends.
I know mags26, I totally do. It made me crazy when all my friends had kids in their 20’s and that was ALL they could talk about.
I finally had kids in my late 30’s — I was a grown up, had a career, been married twice — surely I wouldn’t fall into this trap.
Jokes on me! I became the exact same way. Whether it is biological or sociological, I have no idea. But, women do change when they become mothers. And it isn’t that we are losing who we are, it is that we are fundamentally changing who we are. And it’s not a judgment either. Most mothers (I know there are some) do not think we are better because we have had children. But, without a doubt, we are different. And it becomes harder to relate to our single friends, because our outlook, focus, priorities have changed.
I found the same thing when I got divorced. My married friends all of a sudden had a harder time relating to me. What had changed??? Me.