Comments on: Sex & the Single Woman: STFU Parents http://singlemindedwomen.com/blog/dating-relationshipssex-the-single-woman-stfu-parents/ Women's Health, Women's Relationships, Single Women's Work Life, Single Mothers, Money, Careers and Travel Sat, 04 Feb 2012 21:23:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: chrisb http://singlemindedwomen.com/blog/dating-relationshipssex-the-single-woman-stfu-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-1061 chrisb Tue, 13 Oct 2009 19:53:11 +0000 http://singlemindedwomen.com/?p=21110#comment-1061 I know mags26, I totally do. It made me crazy when all my friends had kids in their 20's and that was ALL they could talk about. I finally had kids in my late 30's -- I was a grown up, had a career, been married twice -- surely I wouldn't fall into this trap. Jokes on me! I became the exact same way. Whether it is biological or sociological, I have no idea. But, women do change when they become mothers. And it isn't that we are losing who we are, it is that we are fundamentally changing who we are. And it's not a judgment either. Most mothers (I know there are some) do not think we are better because we have had children. But, without a doubt, we are different. And it becomes harder to relate to our single friends, because our outlook, focus, priorities have changed. I found the same thing when I got divorced. My married friends all of a sudden had a harder time relating to me. What had changed??? Me. I know mags26, I totally do. It made me crazy when all my friends had kids in their 20′s and that was ALL they could talk about.

I finally had kids in my late 30′s — I was a grown up, had a career, been married twice — surely I wouldn’t fall into this trap.

Jokes on me! I became the exact same way. Whether it is biological or sociological, I have no idea. But, women do change when they become mothers. And it isn’t that we are losing who we are, it is that we are fundamentally changing who we are. And it’s not a judgment either. Most mothers (I know there are some) do not think we are better because we have had children. But, without a doubt, we are different. And it becomes harder to relate to our single friends, because our outlook, focus, priorities have changed.

I found the same thing when I got divorced. My married friends all of a sudden had a harder time relating to me. What had changed??? Me.

]]> By: mags26 http://singlemindedwomen.com/blog/dating-relationshipssex-the-single-woman-stfu-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-1055 mags26 Mon, 12 Oct 2009 16:08:45 +0000 http://singlemindedwomen.com/?p=21110#comment-1055 I hate when all women can do is talk about their children. I get it-- kids are cute, especially when they are your own. But I don't understand how as soon as a woman becomes a mother, she changes into a completely different person to her friends. I hate when all women can do is talk about their children. I get it– kids are cute, especially when they are your own. But I don’t understand how as soon as a woman becomes a mother, she changes into a completely different person to her friends.

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