Duchess Digest: Look! It’s a Sign!

The-Wizard-of-OzSeveral months ago I came across a Kabbalah Center with a large banner hung over the front entrance which read, “Look – It’s a Sign!”

After chuckling for several minutes about their clever marketing campaign I started thinking, “If only it were that obvious in real life!” And so while humming the “Signs, signs everywhere is signs” song from the long forgotten Canadian group The Five Man Electrical Band, I was left pondering the obvious, the subtle, the ignored and often times unheeded signs in my own life.

There was, of course the various events and “signs” that led to my moving to Los Angeles. There were the signs of true love and untold meant-to-be happiness throughout the duration of every (now ended) relationship from kindergarten onward. There have been signs about my purpose, my career choice and my writing. There have been misinterpreted dreams I was certain at the time were signs. There have also been properly interpreted dreams that I know for a fact were signs.

The problem with signs in my life however, is that they’ve always been less then foolproof. If only the navy blue banner with white words would unfurl over the head of the man for me, loudly and unmistakably declaring “Look – it’s a man! The one!” Or that some clouds would’ve parted and winged messengers would’ve descended alongside my hybrid last week as I sat pulled over in the middle of Kansas, uncertain and scared, and started declaring with trumpets and singing “Go East” or “Head West” accompanied with large waving arm gestures; like the flaggers directing jumbo jets on the tarmac.

What can I say? The language of subtlety has always eluded me.

When a man has fallen for me I always seem to be the last to figure it out (Me: “Really?” Man: “Uh, yeah. Hello. Fairly obvious!”). Similarly when he’s “just not that into me” anymore I seem to be equally in the dark. This trait is in no way limited to one particular realm of my all encompassing life.

So it is with uncertainty, but a good attitude and willingness to laugh at my folly, that I find myself back on the east coast. Without the presence of winged guides and large banners, I just have to navigate the signs of my life to the best of my ability. I feel my sign reading talent is like driving the interstate system; keep heading in the general correct direction and follow the signs.

Did I get on the wrong freeway at one am in downtown St. Louis and have to course correct? You bet. Did I get stuck taking the slow and painful route through Kansas City rush hour traffic? Sure did. But in the end I made it to my next destination unscathed and feeling more confident in my ability to navigate the road’s minor set backs and small confusions.

–Jill Brown


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Jill Brown is a Los Angeles, California-based life coach and writer. She earned her Bachelors in Humanities and Sociology from USU and is a member of the National Association for Conflict Resolution and the Ladies Who Launch Network. She is the founder of “The Duchess Guide” a website dedicated to helping women become their most fabulous and unique selves. She is an avid outdoor enthusiast, traveler and health nut. When she isn’t writing or working on Duchess, Jill loves spending all her free time with her Labrador – Betty. For more on The Duchess Guide or Jill visit: www.theduchessguide.com