Duchess Digest: A Four-Letter Word

RoadWarrioretteI’ve been doing a lot of driving lately. Somewhere in the neighborhood of three-thousand miles of driving; give or take a few hundred miles. And while the road-trips can leave my bum sore and my eyes tired, it also produces some of my best thinking and ideas.

Recently, while stopped in gridlock traffic on the interstate in downtown Denver, I noticed the rather uninspiring message pasted in five inch tall lettering across the back of a large S.U.V. “Hope? Change? How’s that working out for you so far? LOL.”

My first thought was, naturally, “Idiot.”

My next thought went from disgust to actually feeling a little sad for this person. How sad must their life be that they feel the need to broadcast across their vehicle a disbelief in change and hope?

Now just in case you think I’m daft and don’t recognize that this is a political statement more than anything (obviously this person was not an Obama supporter), I caught on to his sentiment right away. But let’s leave politics out of this argument and just wonder what is so sarcastic or worthy of mockery about hope and change?

It reminds me of a line in Shawshank Redemption when Red says to Andy, “Hope’s a dangerous thing in here.” But as Andy goes on to prove throughout the movie, hope is what keeps us all alive.

In a time when our lives are literally changing drastically every single day, we all are facing uncertain times. Change doesn’t have to be bad, in fact usually in the long run it isn’t, but in the short run it can always be a bit unsettling and frightening. In these quickly changing times, what is the real danger in hope? Faith? Believing in a brighter day? What if De Soto and Columbus had just accepted the world as the maps of the day explained it to be and hadn’t had the faith to venture out across the  oceans? What is Edison had given up after his ten-thousand failures and not tried for the ten-thousand and first time to create his vision? Success as they say, is falling down seven times and getting back up

So I ask you, what is the real danger? To have hope? Or to lose faith?

Many slow miles later after switching lanes, traffic came to another slow halt and I happened to notice the bumper sticker on the new car ahead of me. It said, “Something good is going to happen to you.”

Now, that’s a platform message I will always be supporting!

–Jill Brown

Jill Brown is a Los Angeles, California-based life coach and writer. She earned her Bachelors in Humanities and Sociology from USU and is a member of the National Association for Conflict Resolution and the Ladies Who Launch Network. She is the founder of “The Duchess Guide” a website dedicated to helping women become their most fabulous and unique selves. She is an avid outdoor enthusiast, traveler and health nut. When she isn’t writing or working on Duchess, Jill loves spending all her free time with her Labrador – Betty. For more on The Duchess Guide or Jill visit: www.theduchessguide.com


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