Introducing Ms. Single Mama

As a single working mom, I barely have time to squeeze in a shower – let alone, a date.

During the first year of single momhood I was on a mission to find a replacement father and husband. Since then I have had a fair share of dates and dud boyfriends. The result – I have realized that men are highly overrated. Sure it would be wonderful to meet my prince charming.

But I am not seeking one out and would be incredibly hesitant to ever consider marriage again. Why? Because I just don’t need a man.

Had an interesting conversation today with a stranger in a coffee shop. His daugher, who is my age, is also a single mom.

“Her latest boyfriend seems like the real deal,” he said, “he’s even talking marriage.”

One thing led to another and I explained that I’m not looking for a husband.

“I just don’t need one. I can completely support myself financially. I mean, it’s definitely tough sometimes but I’m not looking for a husband. If someone comes along and they are amazing – so be it – but I’m not even sure if I ever want to get married again. Why bother?”

“You’re a man-hater!”

“No,” I said, “I LOVE men. I enjoy men thoroughly. I just don’t need one. They’re kind of a pain in the ass – no offense.”

He started nodding,

“Yeah. I guess you’re right. Why would you need one? Sounds like you should be a polygamist’s wife – then you could be friends with all of his other wives!” Huh?

I’m a content single mom. Period. Some people just don’t get it. Although a commune of the other mothers might be nice.

Are you content yet? What are some of the craziest reactions you’ve had from strangers, co-workers or friends when you tell them you’re single but not looking?

Ms. Single Mama writes a dating and advice blog for single mothers, single fathers and single minded women. Check it out at