Sex & the Single Woman: Dealbreakers

Earlier today I was thinking about goals I’ve had for myself (and goals that I still have for myself). I’m lucky I have been able to achieve so many of them, but I can’t help but wonder how my life would have been different if things would have stood in my way.

For example, I wanted to move to New York immediately after graduating from college. I’ve wondered what would have happened had I been dating some seriously and moving to the city meant breaking off the relationship. Would I have been willing to postpone or possibly give up my dreams?

This got me to thinking about dealbreakers. How important are they? At what point are we willing to concede our dreams in favor of one person? How do we rank our personal goals in comparison to our relationships?

I don’t know if I would have had the strength to test a relationship by leaving the state. I can’t say if leaving would have been the right choice. Nevertheless, I know I would have struggled between what I’ve wanted my whole life and the possibility of losing something greater.