Sex & the Single Woman: Give Me Space So I Can Breathe

One of the trickiest things to balance in a relationship is space. A couple weeks ago I talked about how I feel surrounded by different people desiring different amounts. What happens, though, when giving someone space is the least natural feeling possible?

The hard thing for me to cope with is that there are no limits. How do you make rules that say “Yes, this is appropriate” or “No, this isn’t.” For me, it’s either all or nothing. Space means ambiguity, and I don’t like that at all.

But as is usually the case in relationships, the decision for space doesn’t always rely on me. Which means I’m forced to deal with the ambiguity.

Bottom line: how do we set limits? How is the Type A girl supposed to figure out what’s right and what’s too far?