Sex & the Single Woman: “I’ll Take a Beating of Emotions for 100, Please”

Okay, so maybe my life isn’t exactly “Jeopardy,” but these days I always feel like I’m asking questions.

Last week I talked about unexpectedly seeing a guy I once dated and how it totally threw me for a loop. While that situation was okay, a few days later I ran into him and it was definitely not okay.

He told me a slew of devastating things about him, and me being the “fixer” that I am, I instantly wanted to try and make it all better. I don’t know if he told me knowing it would get a rise out of me, or if he was genuinely upset. Nevertheless, it ended up freaking me out.

I’m trying to get out of this position of being emotionally used. I can’t get past people when they constantly ask me to care about them. I know that sounds weird, but there is a point where I have to withdraw my emotional investment or else risk things getting bad.