Sex & the Single Woman: Miss Manners

I love technology for a million and one reasons (the Gas Buddy app, anyone?) but when it comes to guys, sometimes technology can be a huge downfall.

I was reminded of this last night when I was chatted by a guy I haven’t spoken to in over a year. Back when I saw him more frequently, he had a tendency to get drunk and approach me in ways that were both awkward and uninvited. Talking to him a year later, I realized we didn’t have much to say to each other, especially because we never knew each other well in the first place.

The issue then became how to escape the conversation. He’s a nice guy so I didn’t want to be rude, but awkwardness is awkwardness. Naturally, I did what any girl in my position would do: I tried to kill it.

One word answers, downer responses–anything to try and pass the hint that I wasn’t interested. It didn’t work.

Eventually I think I wore him down, but not without feeling incredibly guilty first. But should I be? We are raised to have good manners, to hold conversations, and personally, I could talk to a wall all night. Still, my desire to make it clear I wasn’t interested superseded everything I’ve been taught. Is that so bad?

Even when we are out in public we are approached by men all the time. At what point do we resort to rudeness to deflect them. Is there ever an excuse?