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Sex & the Single Woman: Playing the Field
For the past three weeks, Elevator Boy has been a serious fixture in my life. After making a comeback appearance from when my roommate first met him two years ago, Elevator Boy has been living in my apartment nonstop.
I also mentioned that he has a knck for being extremely flirtatious, and it was generally assumed by all of my roommates that he was looking for a hook-up.
Wrong.
Last weekend Elevator Boy checked out of my life. He went from being the live-in flirt extraordinaire to MIA in about two seconds. Weird? I think so.
Turns out Homeboy has a girlfriend. And he definitely didn’t tell any of the girls he was attempting to pick up. This leaves me wondering: why do guys commit to a girl, then make it their mission to play the field? Even though none of my roommates hooked up with Elevator Boy, we still find it odd that he failed to mention his significant other.
So what do you think? Is this common for guys? Do women do it too?
–Maggie
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i think its common for guys. Well, at least the men i run into. I have even had my run ins with MARRIED men, who are looking for the “other woman”. And this was RIGHT AFTER my divorce. I could NEVER be the other woman. COnsidering I was cheated on in my marraige. But I do believe women do it too. I have seen it. Some people are just overly flirtatious. Sometimes its cute, sometimes its bad. Liek when your commited to someone. I just dont understand the thoughts in peoples heads when they do that. i am very flirtatious. Always have been. but when I got married, that all stopped. I was 100% devoted to my husband. When I was in a serious relationship I did the same. I think with all these thoughts in mind is what keeps me away from dating again. I am just so tired of the “little boys” and games. If you want to be committed to me, then do it…and be faithful even when it comes to flirting.
I’ve known guys, including friends, who I’ll refer to as “lock-downers”. They’re uncomfortable being single so they lock-down the first thing they can but then are always searching for something better. Stems from deep insecurity …one of my good male lock-down friends will even admit this. I know women like this as well. And of course some men are just dogs (that will never learn new tricks).