Sex & the Single Woman: Playing with Fire


I think most women have been in the position where they have hooked up with a guy and felt some chemistry in the aftermath. One of the biggest risks we take in playing with fire like this is that a fling turns out to be a little bit more than that. It’s a lot easier to be interested in a guy and walk away from it before things turn physical.  Once they do, you launch yourself into a web of complicated emotions.

A few weeks ago I mentioned that one of my roommates was in the aftermath of what we deemed a “cosmic hookup.” Having been interested in the guy for a while, she may or may not have intended it to just be a hookup. Regardless of her goal for that night, she now unfortunately has unresolved feelings for him.

As Shania Twain once proclaimed, “The best thing about being a woman is the prerogative to have a little fun.” Is that little bit of fun worth carrying unnecessary emotional baggage? Should we satisfy our physical needs at the expense of our emotional needs?

Is it better to have hooked up and lost than to never have hooked up at all?