Sex & the Single Woman: Ready, Set, Stop

I am the first person to admit that I have a straight up Type A personality. I love plans, I organize to de-stress and I constantly seek order in my life. Total Type A. Naturally, it makes total sense that people who are not as neurotic as I am … mystify me. And by mystify, I mean bewilder.

Yesterday I read this article on Marie Claire’s website about being ready for commitment. Because I’m a nut for keeping all of my ducks in a row, I have my five-year plan for my career as well as my love life. This girl is ready.

As I read through the article, however, I was intrigued by the reasons people gave explaining why they weren’t ready. Initially they thought they were too … until they realized that deep down their priorities were elsewhere.

Most intriguing to me (and admittedly the point that hits closest to home) is number five: finding the perfect person but not being able to commit. I have spent so much time ordering my life so that when the perfect guy comes along, I’m ready. So far this has worked well for me, but I’ve not been so lucky in the guys I meet.

Ultimately, this boils down to a few questions: what do you do if you meet that perfect person and aren’t ready? Can you ask him or her to wait for an indeterminable amount of time? Are there truly reasons why you would let someone get away?

–Maggie