Sex & the Single Woman: Relapse

I am a complete fool for time.

I can be so angry about something, or annoyed with someone, or convinced that yes, I DID make the right decision by not staying with someone, and yet over time these convictions completely weaken.

Case in point: last weekend.

Last fall I was very interested in a guy who I thought was very interested in me as well. Long story short, he didn’t want a relationship, but I didn’t find this out until I was too invested. I spent the better part of the end of the year getting over him, and have finally succeeded.

Or so I thought.

We were back in friends mode (what else is new?) and hanging out one night when he started getting closer. Although nothing really happened, it felt like the old days. And as good as that felt, it was also a bad thing.

Why is it that we can get over a guy and all it takes is a hug for us to relapse? I resisted the urge to push him to see how far things would go, and while it was easier to stop him than it was last fall, it wasn’t exactly a walk in the park.

Once we date someone are we always connected in some small way? Does the door never fully close?

–Maggie