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Sex & the Single Woman: Should You Limit Yourself?
Recently I asked if hook-ups can jump-start relationships. What brought this to my attention was a roommate I have who had the hook-up going right. Now, after she and the guy discussed that they weren’t going to start a relationship, I am left to wonder that if a man changes his mind, should you change yours?
Let me specify. If a guy suddenly decides that, although he likes you, he doesn’t want to date you, should you adjust your priorities? Is it okay to just date him casually, or even just dabble in the physical, until something better comes along? Are you sabotaging yourself by messing around with a guy, when you could be putting yourself out there for the one you really are supposed to be with?
I see no harm in seeing a guy casually if you both know that is as far as it will go. But if you want more than that, will limiting yourself end up making things worse in the end?
–Maggie
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I think so. I think if you hold yourself down to casual relationship without having an agreement ofwhat you are, you are making things harder on yourself in the end. You can always end up getting caught up somehow. I did this years ago, and ended up marrying the guy. And look where I am now….divorced with 2 kids. I will wait until I am comfortable with a man and feel there is something that can build from there, before I settle and be dating just one man. Until then, I will just date in general.
This one is tough for me. On one hand I like not being sexually needy for when mr right does pass my way. On the other hand, I feel like someone (depending on who initiates the casual relationship) always ends up feeling used. Can’t be good karma.