Sex & the Single Woman: The Unhappiest Concept
I recently read a piece by Dr. Diana Kisrchner (she’s often cited in Cosmo!) about soul mates. Dr. Kirschner argues that the idea of soul mates teaches us that there is one person who is perfect for us — and our drive to find him or her is not always positive. She supports this by quoting family psychiatrist, Frank Pittman, “Nothing has produced more unhappiness than the concept of the soul mate.”
I understand her reasoning, but the romantic in me argues that the search for a soul mate cannot produce that level of unhappiness. I believe that there are certain people we are meant to be with for certain points in our lives. I believe that we can be truly in love, but grow and change and fade from that. And I believe that when you do meet someone you are meant to be with, all the pain is worth it.
We love in an age where love is torn down to a science. It’s an equation, it must be practical. Whatever happened to being happy and trusting that not everything makes sense?
Maybe I’m foolish, maybe I’m impractical, but frankly, I don’t care. It makes me happy to have hope, and I won’t apologize if that’s not good enough for someone else.