Sex & the Single Woman: Total Disconnect?

One aspect of relationships that completely fascinates me is how disillusioned love can make us. I’m not trying to preach to anyone — I am the first person to admit I have made many wrong judgments — but nevertheless, I am still intrigued.

When I think about the times I have allowed myself to talk myself in or out of feeling a certain way, there is one thing in common. I always find myself saying “This is it. It’s different from any other time, so the rules are different.” But are they?

Yes, you might have an amazing connection with someone. A mind-blowing kind of chemistry like never before. So what if he’s distant sometime? It’s probably just the way he is, you need to stop being so anxious.

Or:

Yes, he’s made mistakes. But no one’s perfect. And he’ll learn from his mistake, and it will be different with me …

Maybe I’m just pulling from my own experiences. (Okay, I definitely am.) And those experiences include the mistakes I’ve made. The question I am left with is how do you really know if a guy is different? I am a great believer in both fate and instinct, and I would like to think that a glorious combination of the two of them reassures you that you have found someone special … and good.

I guess until I find that One person I won’t be able to understand the difference, but for someone who is a control freak, that’s not a settling sentiment.

–Maggie