She whose face gives no light shall never be a star.” – William Blake
This past week has had a theme: shine. What does it mean to shine? According to the dictionary, to shine is to emit rays of light or to be bright by reflection. I like these definitions because they mean you can emanate light yourself and/or you can be brighter and shine as a reflection of the light others offer.
Everywhere I turn there’s a reference to the “shine” theme. In my iPod shuffle I’m suddenly hearing Estelle’s lyrics more clearly; “I’m gonna shine with all my lights on.” I’m running across passages from the Gospel of Mathew (5:16) that we don’t light a candle and put it under a barrel,
but on a stand to give light to the whole house because we should all, “Let our light so shine before man.” Or Marianne Williamson’s famous excerpt used by Nelson Mandela in his inaugural speech about letting your light shine because, “Your playing small does not serve the world.”
By being ourselves and authentically letting our bright selves shine from the inside out, we are not only living our purpose, but we are giving others permission to be their true selves too. You have to shine. It is your calling to be the brightest, most fabulous, most authentic YOU that you can be! How many of us have tried to alter or subdue our personalities or interests to fit better into “this relationship” or “that job.” That never works. We all know it but we still do it from time to time. You aren’t just doing yourself a disservice by doing so; you’re doing the world a disservice. You’re the only YOU there is. If you’re naturally quiet and like being a homebody, but pretend to be a big outgoing party girl in order to snag an outspoken guy you think you want, you not only won’t be happy, but he won’t be either. And neither will the great guy that’s actually compatible with you and meant for you (not to mention the girl that party guy should really be dating). The same principle applies with a job, a friendship, a new client, etc.
Boldly be and do and say who you really are so you can find your people. Settle into a comfortable stance with yourself and with gratitude let go of the people in your life that aren’t a good fit. Clear up that space so “your people” can find their way into your life and you’ll both be happier. And truly give thanks and acknowledgment to those leaving your life so that they have space and permission to let their own light shine too! The more courageously we can love and allow ourselves to be – the greater our ability to allow others to do the same.
Now that’s a bright idea.
Jill Brown is a Los Angeles, California-based life coach and writer. She earned her Bachelors in Humanities and Sociology from USU and is a member of the National Association for Conflict Resolution and the Ladies Who Launch Network. She is the founder of “The Duchess Guide” a website dedicated to helping women become their most fabulous and unique selves. She is an avid outdoor enthusiast, traveler and health nut. When she isn’t writing or working on Duchess, Jill loves spending all her free time with her Labrador – Betty. For more on The Duchess Guide or Jill visit: www.theduchessguide.com