Valentine’s Day 2009: Mission Accomplished!

No More Broken HeartsBeing single is fabulous. But no matter how fabulous things are throughout
our lives, there are certain times we ask ourselves, “Wouldn’t it be nice
if . . .” Remember the last time you were in a relationship? And all the
times you thought, “Wouldn’t it be nice if I was single.”

The same principle applies when you’re single. Every once in a while you think,
“Wouldn’t it be nice if I was in a relationship.” Maybe for some of you
that isn’t true. Maybe for some of you it is. It’s been my experience that
no matter where we are, what we’re doing or who we’re doing it with, we
all face times when we gaze longingly at an alternate situation to our own
with rose colored glasses.

With Valentine’s Day fast approaching, chances are you’re seeing
everything rosy. As in, red boxes of chocolate, red roses, red lingerie
and, well you get the point. And if you think you’ve got it bad, consider
the unenviable position the men are in. Every guy out there is being told
they don’t really love their girlfriend unless they conceive of and
implement the most extravagant, most romantic, over-the-top display of
affection. Don’t get me wrong – I’m all about romance. I love flowers,
nice dinners and gifts (daisies, sushi and jewelry to be precise). But I
don’t like the pressure V-day puts on us all. Men are jerks if they don’t
get us the biggest gift EVER and we feel in the dumps if we don’t have a
boyfriend. What is this holiday? It’s supposed to be about love? So where
is the love? You want to know my idea of the perfect V-day? Take out
Indian food in my pajamas at home watching classic movies on the couch
together. The man who gets me THAT for Valentine’s Day will be special

If you can feel your palms getting sweaty and your throat tightening just
thinking about the big day, remember you’re not alone! I say attack
Valentines like you would a mission. That’s right, Operation V-day! And
here are three great battle plans for success this year:

1)    Organize a party. Remember, you’re not alone. So send out a call to
singles! It’s not too late. Send out an Evite today and tell everyone to
bring their male and female single friends. Get something going and have
fun – celebrate your single status in style. At the very least you’ll have
a great party and who knows; maybe you’ll actually meet someone special!
2)    Arrange a night-in with the girls. Make a movie theme night and invite
the ladies over for some girl-power classics in their pajamas. Popcorn,
soda and candy are inexpensive party favors and you and the girls can have
a slumber party like the good ‘ol days. Some of my own personal favorites
are Legally Blonde, Bridget Jones Diary and The Holiday.
3)    Get out of town. When you’re alone and life is making you lonely you
can always go: OUT OF TOWN! V-Day falls over President’s Day weekend this
year. So take advantage of the three-day weekend and go somewhere. Many
airlines like Delta, United and Southwest have last minute weekend web
fares, so check them out and have an adventure.

—Jill Brown

Jill Brown is a Los Angeles, California based Life Coach and Writer. She earned her Bachelors in Humanities and Sociology from USU and is a member of the National Association for Conflict Resolution and the Ladies Who Launch Network. She is the founder of “The Duchess Guide” a website dedicated to helping women become their most fabulous and unique selves. She is an avid outdoor enthusiast, traveler and health nut. When she isn’t writing or working on Duchess, Jill loves spending all her free time with her Labrador – Betty. For more on The Duchess Guide or Jill visit: