4 Reasons Why a Single Woman Must Put on Her “Game Hat” to Find a New Job

By Vicki Brackett

smw - why a single woman must put on her game hat, vicki brackettThere is a difference between how men and women approach their job search—and when women truly understand the difference it can help them get what they want.

With single women, there is another element to the job search that can add to the stress. Single women are alone, and it usually means there is just one income in the household. This can create even more challenges in how a woman looks at her career and the job search.

There are four challenges single women must recognize in order to meet with success.

1.  Women tend to downplay their accomplishments. Women are not boastful by nature. Most women will spend time telling others how great they are, instead of focusing on themselves. This tendency comes through in interaction with families, friends, coworkers, and volunteer groups, and it shows in leadership style. It also comes through in the job search, where it can hinder women from achieving their goals.

2.  Women can miss opportunities because they worry about everyone else. Women will stay longer in their current job, even when they see the warning signs. Because women are nurturers by nature, they put everyone else first and believe they are letting everyone down by leaving a job. They keep on believing things will work out and that they can make a difference. When this happens, they miss valuable opportunities because they are looking at the company’s future and not their own future.

3. Women most often look to themselves first before placing the responsibility or blame on another, even when an issue is clearly not their issue to own. Women look at their weaknesses first and try to figure out what they can do to change. It’s not a woman’s nature to start by pointing the finger at someone else. Because of this, women tend to look inside first and not take the time to look realistically at what could be changing in the career environment that is beyond their control.

These are the very traits that can make women great volunteers, employees, and leaders. By focusing on other people first, women can pull teams together, make customers feel wonderful, and can make real differences in the things that affect the workplace, the family, and the world.

There is also a fourth element that pertains exclusively to single women.

4. Although most women need a feeling of security in their lives (if they admit it to themselves), for the single woman, financial fear can be almost unbearable. There is usually only one income in the household, and so fear creeps in and can make single women feel immobilized. This fear can taint the way single women look at their career and job search, and add to the problem when looking for a new job.

The key for each woman is to understand why she is who she is, and to give a straightforward look at her strengths, weaknesses, and fears. Doing this gives her focus, so that she can put on her “game hat” when looking for a new position.

And Vicki says…

I know this is difficult, but a woman needs to put herself first.

Look realistically at your professional situation at work and decide to make a calculated move, one that puts you in control of your job search.

If you are unemployed at the current time, put on your game hat and figure out what you can do to help a company grow; then articulate that in your resume and interviews. Remember no one is going to toot your horn in your job search…it’s your responsibility.

So ladies, let’s celebrate how we are different, put on our game hats, and go out and get what we want.

Vicki Brackett is president and CEO of Make It Happen for Women, a division of Make It Happen Consulting that provides personalized career services for women, www.makeithappenforwomen.


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