Comments on: 7 Signs Your Child May Be a Bully http://singlemindedwomen.com/single-moms/7-signs-your-child-may-be-a-bully/ Women's Health, Women's Relationships, Single Women's Work Life, Single Mothers, Money, Careers and Travel Sat, 04 Feb 2012 21:23:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Disruptive Student Behavior: The Bullies - ProfHacker - The Chronicle of Higher Education http://singlemindedwomen.com/single-moms/7-signs-your-child-may-be-a-bully/comment-page-1/#comment-2302 Disruptive Student Behavior: The Bullies - ProfHacker - The Chronicle of Higher Education Tue, 02 Nov 2010 12:01:47 +0000 http://singlemindedwomen.com/?p=10276#comment-2302 [...] yell and scream obscenities at the teenage referees about missed calls.  At a local restaurant, patrons demean and criticize the server for not bringing them exactly what they want when they want it.  In schools, children seem to be [...] [...] yell and scream obscenities at the teenage referees about missed calls.  At a local restaurant, patrons demean and criticize the server for not bringing them exactly what they want when they want it.  In schools, children seem to be [...]

]]> By: BenLeichtling http://singlemindedwomen.com/single-moms/7-signs-your-child-may-be-a-bully/comment-page-1/#comment-604 BenLeichtling Fri, 12 Jun 2009 04:50:24 +0000 http://singlemindedwomen.com/?p=10276#comment-604 Great article Susan, It’s too easy for us to react like Lucius Malfoy, protective father of a vicious child, Draco. It’s hard to step back and look objectively at the situation. I tend to begin behaviorally, looking at external behavior rather than at the emotional state of the child. Therefore, 1. Stop the behavior. Have severe consequences if necessary. 2. Then you can unearth what’s going on internally. One possibility, often overlooked, is that almost all children try using power and bullying as one of their strategies. It’s natural to try to get what we want by any means. As parents, we simply have to teach them what tactics are acceptable and what are unacceptable. Disclosure: I’m the author of the books and CDs “How to Stop Bullies in Their Tracks,” and “Parenting Bully-Proof Kids.” See my web site and blog at BulliesBeGone (http://.BulliesBeGone.com). Or Twitter @BulliesBeGone. In addition to professional experience, I learned practical, pragmatic methods growing up in New York City and then watching our six children and their friends and enemies. And we live in Denver, home of Columbine High School. Great article Susan,

It’s too easy for us to react like Lucius Malfoy, protective father of a vicious child, Draco. It’s hard to step back and look objectively at the situation.

I tend to begin behaviorally, looking at external behavior rather than at the emotional state of the child.

Therefore,
1. Stop the behavior. Have severe consequences if necessary.
2. Then you can unearth what’s going on internally. One possibility, often overlooked, is that almost all children try using power and bullying as one of their strategies. It’s natural to try to get what we want by any means. As parents, we simply have to teach them what tactics are acceptable and what are unacceptable.

Disclosure: I’m the author of the books and CDs “How to Stop Bullies in Their Tracks,” and “Parenting Bully-Proof Kids.” See my web site and blog at BulliesBeGone (http://.BulliesBeGone.com). Or Twitter @BulliesBeGone.

In addition to professional experience, I learned practical, pragmatic methods growing up in New York City and then watching our six children and their friends and enemies. And we live in Denver, home of Columbine High School.

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