Comments on: Raising a Fatherless Boy: What Single Moms Need to Know http://singlemindedwomen.com/single-moms/raising-a-fatherless-boy-what-single-moms-need-to-know/ Women's Health, Women's Relationships, Single Women's Work Life, Single Mothers, Money, Careers and Travel Sat, 04 Feb 2012 21:23:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: nasace2010 http://singlemindedwomen.com/single-moms/raising-a-fatherless-boy-what-single-moms-need-to-know/comment-page-1/#comment-1484 nasace2010 Tue, 30 Mar 2010 20:32:39 +0000 http://v2.singlemindedwomen.com/?p=422#comment-1484 Thank mindspirit333, I see this is so old but i wanted to add to this. Most woman are not the ones creating the "babymama drama" that you hear. I have not and will not collect a cent from this dead beat dad who has done nothing. My son will be 13 this year and although i do have questions and concerns. I KNOW he is respectful to woman/girls and i know he is compassionate unlike most men. So to those single moms out there with questions get a therapist or see the school councelor more often then not your doing just as good as a "2 parent home" or a mom from some ideal family minus the dad to her kid where there maybe male role models and there may not be but boys meet boys and so on and on. :) I agree with all that was said above by mindspirit3333 she just didnt let this story P her off like i did. Thanks again and good luck single moms. Thank mindspirit333,

I see this is so old but i wanted to add to this. Most woman are not the ones creating the “babymama drama” that you hear. I have not and will not collect a cent from this dead beat dad who has done nothing. My son will be 13 this year and although i do have questions and concerns. I KNOW he is respectful to woman/girls and i know he is compassionate unlike most men. So to those single moms out there with questions get a therapist or see the school councelor more often then not your doing just as good as a “2 parent home” or a mom from some ideal family minus the dad to her kid where there maybe male role models and there may not be but boys meet boys and so on and on. :) I agree with all that was said above by mindspirit3333 she just didnt let this story P her off like i did. Thanks again and good luck single moms.

]]> By: MindSpirit333 http://singlemindedwomen.com/single-moms/raising-a-fatherless-boy-what-single-moms-need-to-know/comment-page-1/#comment-908 MindSpirit333 Sat, 29 Aug 2009 10:41:43 +0000 http://v2.singlemindedwomen.com/?p=422#comment-908 I get so frustrated as a single mom of 2 fatherless children reading these articles for single moms. This is great advice for single mothers who already have a support system in place. However in REALITY for many single moms we can't just conjure up good male role models out of thin air for our fatherless sons & daughters! Like I've said a hundred times, there's no such thing as a "daddy" store! We already know things like the kids will be better off if there is a "dad" involved. But that is out of my control completely. My son'd BSD left the state immediately after paternity test proved him to be the dad. Just ran with his tail between his legs from all responsibility... Many moms take this kind of advice as we NEED to have a man in our child's life, so we simply SETTLE for anyone wanting to be with us. This proves to be an excercise in futility and in my case ended up with alot of heartache and a Protection Order from several psychos (who were really great in the beginning). What needs to happen is married men, christian/religious men and just good men need to start reaching out to the fatherless in their own communities. Single moms are usually way to busy to seek out help and are often made to feel like second class citizens and looked down upon because there is no dad (or male role model) in the picture. My own parents don't even see my kids but 3 times a year... and not for long. There is no such thing as an "illegitimate" child. Every child born into the world under ANY circumstance (even rape), is special and has a purpose! Single moms need more help!!! Where are the men who will stand up and bring these deadbeat dads to justice, and step in to help take our sons out to play ball? Find a single mother to help! So telling me to "stay in touch" with a deadbeat dad is obviously NOT an option and not at all helpful. Perhaps you could organize a national organization that works with single parent families of fatherless kids. Now that would be productive. I get so frustrated as a single mom of 2 fatherless children reading these articles for single moms. This is great advice for single mothers who already have a support system in place. However in REALITY for many single moms we can’t just conjure up good male role models out of thin air for our fatherless sons & daughters! Like I’ve said a hundred times, there’s no such thing as a “daddy” store!

We already know things like the kids will be better off if there is a “dad” involved. But that is out of my control completely. My son’d BSD left the state immediately after paternity test proved him to be the dad. Just ran with his tail between his legs from all responsibility…

Many moms take this kind of advice as we NEED to have a man in our child’s life, so we simply SETTLE for anyone wanting to be with us. This proves to be an excercise in futility and in my case ended up with alot of heartache and a Protection Order from several psychos (who were really great in the beginning).

What needs to happen is married men, christian/religious men and just good men need to start reaching out to the fatherless in their own communities. Single moms are usually way to busy to seek out help and are often made to feel like second class citizens and looked down upon because there is no dad (or male role model) in the picture.

My own parents don’t even see my kids but 3 times a year… and not for long. There is no such thing as an “illegitimate” child. Every child born into the world under ANY circumstance (even rape), is special and has a purpose! Single moms need more help!!! Where are the men who will stand up and bring these deadbeat dads to justice, and step in to help take our sons out to play ball? Find a single mother to help!

So telling me to “stay in touch” with a deadbeat dad is obviously NOT an option and not at all helpful. Perhaps you could organize a national organization that works with single parent families of fatherless kids. Now that would be productive.

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