Single Minded Moms: Find True Happiness; Allow Love to Transform Your Life

By Melissa Chapman

Maybe you’re a bit of a cynic, but who could blame you?! The true love you were promised in syrupy sweet Disney fairytale endings replete with raven and golden haired princesses riding off into sunsets with their prince charmings were not the ending you got! Yours was very different; your prince turned out to be anything but charming; your ride halted to a screeching stop and you never got a glimpse of that glorious sunset!
Still, you feel extremely blessed, although, by 9pm, you ‘re usually wiped out having exhausted your every last bit of bodily strength doing your single mom juggle—job, kids, house- and when your head grazes your pillowcase you are out cold. At 6 am when the alarm begins its unrelenting beeping noise, you wonder; would those Disney Princesses bolt of bed singing sweetly, if like you they were single moms feeling a little slighted by the universe’s master plan?
So, if you’re a single mom feeling discontent with the way your life is unfolding, and you’ve never relied on religion as a source of comfort, you don’t need to believe in a deity to unearth your reserve of personal energy. All you need is you. It may sound simplistic, but it is true. When you learn to harness your unique energy and spirit you can create the life you were meant to lead.
“When we learn that we have the ability to harness our thoughts, we have the power to do and be anything we desire,” says Susan Apollon author of, Touched by the Extraordinary: An Intuitive Psychologist Shares Insights, Lessons and True Stories of Spirit and Love to Transform and Heal the Soul. “This is truly self-empowerment and it is ours for the choosing.”
If the word, intuitive psychologist conjures up images of charlatan psychics, spinning their tales from pixie dust, it’s all right to cling to your reservations, but keep reading anyhow. Worst case-scenario you’ll pick up some interesting insights into ways to create a better you, and best case scenario, you might actually begin to believe that your power is firmly within your grasp.So just how do you get down to the business of harnessing your power?
Make it your intention to choose unconditional love of yourself and of others.
“By choosing to love yourself unconditionally, you are intending to focus on your positive, loving qualities and gifts rather than on the points for which you hold self loathing, unresolved guilt and much pain,” says Apollon. “Unconditional love is accepting you totally, completely and adoringly mistakes and all.”
You are made up of more than 50 trillion cells, all of which are intelligent beings and totally aware of every thought you have. The only experience your cells need and want from you, in order to keep you happy, is love. When you adore yourself your body releases endorphins; substances produced by the brain that have painkilling and tranquillizing effects on the body.
Release and detach from any baggage you have been carrying around; practice forgiving yourself and others.
“Forgiveness is not easy, but it is deeply rewarding,” insists Apollon. “It is vitally important that you learn to forgive the people who have wronged you. Remember that everyone on earth is walking their own path and is trying to do the best they can. The strongest choice you could possibly make is to let go of any unresolved anger and choose to forgive. The choices you make have different energetic vibrations, and forgiveness and love carry the highest resonance. When you don’t forgive, you deny yourself a higher energetic payoff.”
The reason to forgive yourself and anyone else is to heal. It is not for anyone else – just you.
When something pops up for you that causes you to feel anything but good, try the Face, Embrace and Replace Technique.
“It’s healthier to feel the sadness and loss than to detach yourself from it,” says Apollon. “It’s normal to grieve; just don’t make it the dominant part of who you are.”
The moment you notice you‘re experiencing a not-good feeling and the thoughts associated with it, face it. Embrace your pain then replace it with a feel- good thought and focus on it for 30 seconds. Then, repeat!
Remember to breathe!
You were born with the gift of breath. It heals, calms, brings feelings of peace and love. Don’t forget to use it, especially in the middle of a stressful situation. Practice taking three deep breaths; with each breath, breathe in to the count of 6, 7 8, 9 or 10, depending on your comfort level. Breathe out to the same count. With each breath in, visualize yourself connecting with the loving energy of the universe and watch it flowing into and throughout your being. With the count out to 10, let this healing breath of energy going into your every cell, lovingly bathing each and watch anything dark being gently released from your body. 

Fifth, know the law of attraction; like energy attracts like energy.

Every morning when you wake up, the ball is in your court in regards to how you want to spend your day. If you exude bitterness, anger, or self-pity, then you can’t really expect others around you to feed you good cheer by the spoonful.


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