Tome of the Mommy: Ask Yourself, “Why did I Marry Him?”

I’ve been blessed with a wonderful relationship. My husband, Martin, and I have been together for over twenty years.
I’m always amazed when unhappy couples stay in a marriage. Isn’t the  goal to be with someone who makes you happy?
Not because each party feels some obligation to stay in the marriage.
When questioned as to whether they [...]

I Got Married and Other Mistakes: #1. Wedding Day

Cartoonist Barbara Slate has her pencil on the pulse of every woman’s nightmare: life without love. Her slant on relationships is a bittersweet bonbon.
She has created characters for Marvel and DCComics, and writes Betty and Veronica for Archie Comic.Her book, YOU CAN DO A GRAPHIC NOVEL is coming out Jan. 2010 from ALPHA/ Penguin Group [...]

Keep the Married Name or Change it?

I never really liked my maiden name: a German derivation I always had a hard time pronouncing. So when I got married, I was secretly thrilled about ditching the old name and moving up in the alphabet to “A.” I like being first (who doesn’t?) and my married name allowed me to be numero uno in [...]

7 Stress-Free Home Maintenance Tips for Single Women

I’d love to profess that being required to learn a whole new set of home maintenance skills after my divorce filled me with newfound pride and pleasure. But it’s just not so. Much as I reject the suggestion that household jobs should be assigned along gender lines, I’m forced to admit that I’d much rather [...]

How Recession Affects Divorce

For the past three decades we have seen a downward trend in the divorce statistics. To what extent will the recession influence this trend? Will we see more or fewer divorces because the nation is tightening its belt?
There is no question that the recession has affected almost every phase of our daily life so why [...]

Where Is It Written?

Not long after I was divorced, people started asking me the most astounding question. “So, are you seeing anyone new?”
The implication was that my divorced state was a only temporary glitch in the otherwise expected state of being part of a couple. Hearing this question so often made me realize that my new status a [...]

Parenting Agreements: Why Newly Single Moms and Dads Should Have One

Shortly after I discovered I was pregnant with my daughter, my relationship with her father ended. Coming to terms with being a single mom was the easy part, but dealing with potential custody issues frightened me. I mean, our child wasn’t even born yet and already I was having separation anxiety at the thought of [...]

Duchess Digest / The Ex Files, Part 1

To date or not to date your ex? That is the question.
Okay, it’s not what Shakespeare originally intended, but isn’t it the dilemma we’ve all come face-to-face with at some point in our lives?
I have been very much thrown back into the mix with my ex. Make that ex-husband – not just simple an “ex” [...]

John Gray Q&A: “Two Guys to Choose From”

 
Dear John, After three years of single life after divorce, I have found myself in two relationships: one is with a man with whom I have a good time but there is no sex. The other is with a guy that all we ever do is have sex. How do I get either of them [...]

Going it Alone With Children- A Divorce Warrior’s Way

After divorce, the process of morphing your life from ‘married’ to ‘divorced with children‘ is a lot like going through Army boot camp for divorcees. You get a break when they say you get a break (they being the court). And you quickly learn to improve upon your time management skills. The rude awakening you [...]

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