Make the New Year YOUR Year!

By Jill Brown

Every year around now we start looking back on our year with a little pride and a lot of guilt reflecting on how we’ve conducted our year. It’s cyclical, we’ve all done it and you’re about to do it again.

So how does it happen?

How do you start out strong, full of goals for the new year, good ideas and great will-power, only to look back eleven months later and wonder what the hell happened? You can never pin point exactly where and how it went off track but you know it did. Was it that mini cream puff at Valentines Day? The dress for Easter you could’ve put the money into savings for instead? You birthday in August when you deserved to sleep in instead of work out that threw you off track?

The truth is all good intentions for the New Year go awry for one reason: consistency.

Consistency is the best word you can ever learn to practice and not just preach.

Because the reality of life is, how you do one thing is usually how you do everything. So if you can be consistent in one area of your life like finances, you can apply those same principles to diet and exercise or love and relationships.

Successful women in love, career, health and life are ALWAYS the women who are consistent.

Here are a few EASY tips to keep consistent this year and turn those goals into lifestyle habits.

  1. Break big goals down into smaller actions. If losing weight is the goal, set your big goal, then break it down into smaller monthly goals. 20 lbs by May for summer would only be 4 lbs a month. That sounds a lot less daunting then 20 lbs!
  2. Write them down. This is the BEST and most effective tip I give all my clients. Write down your goals. And then post them somewhere you see them every morning and night. This one tip alone will change my life. I goal set around my birthday year v. calendar year and I can tell you that I’ve already accomplished 19 of my 29 goals for my 29th year and I have five months to go. It just happens naturally when you see them every day. Mine are framed on my desk and written on my calendar and my bookmark for my nightly reading. If it’s in your awareness, you’ll keep working on it.
  3. Have a why. The why always propels the what. That’s why everyone says do what you love. Because it doesn’t feel like work. Writing is like that for me. I love it. And it’s the why to all the what that I do. Same thing with running my company Duchess. I love family, relationships and helping women find love. What I want for myself I want for others. So my work never feels like work because I get to collaborate with amazing women who want what I want (and I get to help them achieve it).
  4. Be Specific. I would encourage you to get really specific about the goals you have so they’re more concrete and not just airy fairy. For instance, if being in a committed, loving relationship is something you want in ’11 – then write down specific goals like “hire a dating coach,” “sign-up for 2 online dating sites,” or “go on 2 dates a week for a month.” Action items that are measurable and specific.
  5. Set Reminders. In addition to the daily review, I set reminders in my iPhone and calendar to pop up with alarms once every quarter to remind me of my goals. Take the time to sit down and space out reminders for each goal to pop up once every 3 to 4 months now, and then some Tuesday in April you’ll thank yourself for having reminded your future self of what you want to be working on.

Consistency is key! I know you can do it so take these tips and make them work for you.

If you’re looking for additional help you can always contact me for coaching rates or the latest workshops being offered at Duchess.

Happy New Year!

Jill Brown is a Los Angeles, California-based coach and writer. She earned her Bachelors in Humanities and Sociology from USU and is a member of the National Association for Conflict Resolution and the Ladies Who Launch Network. She is the founder of The Duchess a website dedicated to helping women be their most fabulous selves to experience dating success. To check out her latest program for successful single women looking to enjoy dating and relationships, check out the “Six Weeks to Dating Success” e-book at: now.


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