Duchess Digest: Revisiting ‘The Rules’
By Jill Brown
If you were of dating age in the nineties, or really even if you weren’t, I’m sure you remember the controversial book, The Rules: Time Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right. In fact I’d wager a bet that you’ve probably at one time in your life cracked the cover and had a peak. Which leads me to wondering? Does the modern girl need ‘The Rules?’ Is this just a controversial game? Is it teaching us to snag a man by trickery or is there really something to these rules?
Being one for experiments, I myself will step up and admit I’ve not only looked at this book but back in my early twenties when I thought I had met my match, I even checked it out from the library (purchasing books when you’re in college is already expensive!). Yes, I took the rules out on courtesy loan and tried to see if I too could snag the man of my dreams. The end result of my tampering with this book was the realization that a) I have no self-discipline and couldn’t follow them! And b) I still married that man (be careful what you wish for!). There’s something to be said for discipline though and I must admit these rules intrigue me!
I always advise my Duchesses to make up your own rules – I don’t believe life, love or dating should be done on any terms but your own! But it’s important to be clear about what your objective is before you write out your personal rules. Are you really looking to get married? Do you want more of a casual situation? What decisions and actions are you taking now to help you reach your objective? The key to dating success, just like success in career or any other aspect of your life – is to know what the intended end result is!!
So this leads me to my question for you. . . Have you tried ‘The Rules’ or followed any of this kind of advice (i.e. Why Men Date Bitches et al) and if so, did it work for you? There’s a comments section right below so please tell us all if you’ve read these rules and what your outcome/experience with them was like.
Deciding which rules are yours and really resonate with you is always a great idea!
That’s definitely dating like a Duchess.
Have a question of your own you’d like answered? Please leave your dating questions in the comments below or email me to get your dating questions answered at: firstname.lastname@example.org. Jill Brown is a Los Angeles, California-based coach and writer. She earned her Bachelors in Humanities and Sociology from USU and is a member of the National Association for Conflict Resolution and the Ladies Who Launch Network. She is the founder of “The Duchess Guide” a website dedicated to helping women become their most fabulous selves for dating success. For more on The Duchess Guide or Jill visit: http://theduchessguide.com/
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