Duchess Digest: Three Lessons When Life Sucks

By Jill Brown

There are times in life when stuff simply sucks. You know there are people far less fortunate in life than you are (although you know those who are far more fortunate as well). You know that there are many blissful and great things about your life. You know you’re loved, have great friends, etc. etc. etc. and yet you know what? Your still in a bad mood because sometimes, even though you know you’re supposed to be grateful, stuff sucks. Or at least your attitude about stuff does.

So what’s a beautiful single minded woman to do when no amount of Eckhart Tolle, Toll House Cookies or encouragement from friends is making you feel any better about the thing that’s ailing you (and sucking so bad right now!).

Never fear, the Duchess is here to shed a little light on things that have worked for her which may work for you as well. Hopefully after one of these non-caloric intakes, you’ll feel better and things will feel a little brighter. Three simple lessons to learn from life is kind of sucking for you:

1)   Call your Mom/Sister/Girlfriend who will let you get it out. I hate to be the one to dump on people so I hold a lot back. But every once in a while you just don’t want to have your Pollyanna attitude and the “glad game” feels like a chore. So as long as this is an infrequent practice, I saw call one of the amazing women in your life and be honest, “Listen sis, things suck right now and I just need to vent for a second. Is that ok?” Or even better, ask the helpful woman in your life to shed a little alternative light on your “sucking” issue and see if you can’t walk away with solutions instead of sobs.

2)   Watch The Sweetest Thing. I’m totally serious here. I just discovered this movie over the weekend and I’m in love with it. I HEART Christina Applegate and her combo with girl roomies Cameron Diaz and Selma Blair had me LOL-ing. A little levity goes a long way when things suck. It helps to lift the dark cloud around you aura if you let yourself laugh and just lighten up.  This is the best chick flick ever to help with that; you’ll be laughing guaranteed.

3)   Take heart that sometimes the lesson when things suck is strength. Yeah, I know this last one is tough. But so are the times ladies. So knowing that you are strong, that you are loved and that you’re capable will help build you confidence, your skills and ultimately you! My Nana always tell me, “You come from strong stock Jill,” and I believe her. My Nana was a child of the great depression and has been through more than her fair share of trials in this life. But I never hear her complain about things. She has the heart of gold and the courage, patience and character of a saint and I love her for that. She’s an amazing example of what being a woman means and so when I feel like having a pity party, I think of how strong my Nana is and I usually snap out of it. Take heart and know that through the struggles come your greatest assets. Better yet if you have a strong woman in your life, write her a thank you note and let her know she inspires you!

Napoleon Hill, author of “Think and Grow Rich” said, “You have been disappointed, you have undergone defeat . . . but take courage, for these experiences have tempered the spiritual metal of which you are made. They are assets of incomparable value.” And he’s absolutely right! Try to feed your faith and know that even when things are tough, there’s always a brighter tomorrow.

And that’s the lesson in life when the going gets tough according to the Duchess.

-Jill Brown

Jill Brown is a Los Angeles, California-based coach and writer. She earned her Bachelors in Humanities and Sociology from USU and is a member of the National Association for Conflict Resolution and the Ladies Who Launch Network. She is the founder of “The Duchess Guide” a website dedicated to helping women become their most fabulous selves for dating success.  For more on The Duchess Guide or Jill visit: http://theduchessguide.com/


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