Finding Mr. Right: It’s Mind Over Matter

By Josie Brown

engagementCensus statistics show that  over 90 percent of all adults will marry at least once. But great relationships are a hit-and-miss proposition: most women under the age of forty have had only two “meaningful relationships” prior to uttering “I do.”

Until then, so many things — his career or hers, his allergy to her cat (or hers to his mother) — can get in the way. And that doesn’t include anything that one might do, either knowingly or unwittingly, to sabotage the relationship.

Some single people make is to jump out of a budding relationship in the hope that someone better is just around the corner. Despite enjoying the sex, when you are unable to share emotional intimacy with your partner, the underlying reason may be that you are reacting to the pain of a past emotional loss. Before your fears wreak havoc on other possible soul mates, you need to look carefully prior to making another emotional leap.

“The best News Year’s resolution you could make for yourself is to live alone for the whole year,” recommends Woodsfellow. “During this live alone sabbatical, you should date as many people as possible so that you can better determine what traits you are looking for in a mate.



CIGFMR180Josie Brown,’s Relationships Channel Editor, is the author of two novels: IMPOSSIBLY TONGUE-TIED, and TRUE HOLLYWOOD LIES. Her next book, written with her husband, Martin, is the perfect self-help manual for your BFF (…okay, and for you, too). It’s THE COMPLETE IDIOT’S GUIDE TO FINDING MR. RIGHT [September 2009]. Look for her third novel The DILF, in bookstores in Summer 2010.


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