Clooney’s Conundrum: A Perpetual Bachelor
By Josie Brown
Whereas women all over the world are rejoicing the breakup of actor/producer George Clooney and his significant other of two years, the stunningly beautiful actress Elisabetta Canalis, I”m sure every guy who has heard the news is scratching his head and thinking: “Dude, are you crazy? She’s the complete package!”
Women, take heed: the breakup doesn’t bode well for you, either.
Heck, if Canalis can’t keep Clooney happy, what chance do you have?
And therein lies what I euphemistically call the Clooney Conundrum:
If in fact he wants to break his bachelor streak — and there is no indication he does — Clooney must first come to terms with some of the habits that hold him back. Here are a few:
1. She’s got to be beautiful.
No doubt about it: actors and other powerful, charismatic men attract all women. Even if one is interesting, another who is beautiful more than likely will win his heart. Sorry, that’s just the law of attraction. Men are wired visually, women are wired intelligently.
A smart man knows that beauty comes and goes, and seeks depth in a woman’s personality, especially if he’s looking for a long-term committed relationship. That begs the question: if a man can’t look beyond beauty, does that mean his goals are short term?
2. She’s always much younger than him.
Canalis is seventeen years younger than Clooney. His girlfriend before her, Sarah Larson, was also seventeen years younger. There was an eleven year difference between him and another former girlfriend, the British model Lisa Snowdon. His only marriage — for five years, to actress Talia Balsam, who is two years older — occurred when he was twenty-eight.
Lesson here: the difference in age can play a part in your relationship’s happiness. Having interests in common and being on lockstep on big issues like career and family desires can lead to comittment.
3. Her career can’t overshadow his.
Besides beauty, Canalis, is well educated, and comes from a great family: her father is a radiologist, and her mother teaches classical literature. And she is an actor in her own right. The rigorous demands of this career is few that an acting couple can survive, let alone one in which one partner’s career is in the stratosphere, and the other is still on the launching pad.
4. He hangs more with his pals than with her.
Clooney loves hanging with his posse, and that’s great. His Ocean‘s movies are filled with his actor pals. But some guys can never be alone: even when he’s with you.
5. He’s already made up his mind about marriage: It ain’t for him.
In fact, George Clooney famously bet both Nicole Kidman and Michelle Pfeiffer $10,000 apiece that he would still be unmarried and childless when he turned 40 in 2001. “If anyone wants to make the same bet for when I’m 50,” he said that same year, “get in touch.” No surpirse: He won the bet, too.
A friend once told me: “You keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting.”
If you’re stuck in a rut, only you can pull yourself out of it.
Remember, ladies: just because a guy is doomed to make the same mistakes over and over again when it comes to his relationships doesn’t mean you have to, too.
In other words, don’t fall in love with perpetual bachelors. Spend your time finding men who would consider commitment with the right woman: you.
Josie Brown is SingleMindedWomen.com’s Relationships channel editor.
She is also the author of SECRET LIVES OF HUSBANDS AND WIVES,, soon to be a dramatic television series on ABC, produced by Jerry Bruckheimer.
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