Has Dating Gotten Dull? Bring Back the Fun!

By Christine Pembleton

happy-couple-on-date-at-bar Has dating gotten dull? Bring back the fun!So, you’re at the point in your life where you’re ready to settle down with someone.  But the “pickings” have been slim lately, and there’s no one in your life worth mentioning.

Welcome to dating as an adult.  As soon as you decided you didn’t want to play games anymore, everything got complicated, right?  Well, it doesn’t have to be.

Dating as an adult has its advantages, you know.  For example, you’ve dated enough men that you pretty much know what you want and what you don’t want.  You’re smart enough to not fall for all the tricks.  Yet, you still believe in love and would be more than willing to start a wonderful romance with the right guy.

So, how do you get out there, date and have fun without it feeling like a job?  Here are four tips to bring the fun back into your dating life.

 #1 – Hang out where you haven’t been before.  Let me share a little secret with you.  New people in the group ALWAYS get the most attention.  Now, if you want to feel like the “Belle of the Ball” again, try tapping into one of your interests at a new place.  You’ll meet a whole new group of people, and most definitely get a ton of confidence-boosting attention.

#2 – If things are going well, go with it.  You’re mature enough to know when there’s a possible connection with someone.  So, if things are going well, trust your instincts.   You’ll have a good time, and if things don’t work out, at least you’ll know for sure.

#3 – Date a few guys at once.  You’re an adult, right?  Well, keep your heart safe and your options open by dating more than one guy at a time.   If you do decide you want to exclusively date someone, it will be because you choose to, not because he’s the only one around.

#4 – Remind yourself how amazing you are.  Not every guy will be your cup of tea, and you may not be theirs.  So, if he doesn’t call you again, try not to sweat it.   Think about all the great things your special man will get when he meets you, and trust that he’ll be smart enough to take you off the market.   Everything happens in its own time.

Sometimes, it takes pushing the “Reset” button to start having a great time dating.  Embrace your new life choices and you’ll be enjoying yourself in no time.

Christine PembletonChristine Pembleton is a best-selling author and owner of the Ready to Be a Wife company.  She specializes in helping women who are tired of dating the wrong men by showing them how to get with the right one. She hosts a monthly workshop “How to Know That He’s the One” in Phoenix, AZ.   Get her free audio CD “The 3 Keys to Marrying Well” by visiting http://www.readytobeawife.com.

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