Have Sex, Lose Weight: Here’s Why

By Ken Taylor, MD, OB-GYN

You’ve gained 25 pounds and now your sexual desire has decreased. What do you do?

Often this is the unfortunate case for many women and men; weight gain has increasingly become a negative factor as it relates to sexual drive and desire. On average, obese men and women report that they are significantly less sexually satisfied than the general population.

Self-esteem and self image also play a major role in your sexual drive. If you don’t feel good about yourself, this impacts your sex drive. Furthermore, performance in the bedroom tends to be primarily driven by how you think you look and how you feel.

Studies have also shown that up to 30% of overweight people have sexual difficulties, including dysfunction with genital organs and lack of muscular coordination and physical strength. In addition, clitoral stimulation and penile erection are adversely affected by weight gain due to low blood flow in this area of the body.

As an OB/GYN, I often hear patient concerns about getting winded during sex and frustration with lack of sexual desire. When weight plays a significant role in this equation, there are some key steps that you can take to live a healthier sexual and physical life.

  1. Lose the weight. It’s that simple. Ten pounds is a good start. Not only will this improve how well you perform but it will boost your self-esteem. With fewer pounds, you can become more active in the bedroom with different positions and stimulation becomes easier for both partners.
  2. Alternate positions. There is nothing wrong with changing it up in the bedroom. While most may prefer missionary style, entering from the back of the vagina is also a stimulant. Also, consider acting out any fantasies through various positions.
  3. Check your hormone level. Hormones play a major role in our sex drive. There may be a reason why your sex drive has decreased, so it’s important to check your hormone levels. In addition, women also carry a certain level of testosterone that helps with their sex drive and desire and you may have a deficiency.
  4. Practice kegel exercises. There is a great benefit with practicing kegel exercises. It strengthens and helps the vagina maintain a grip on the penis creating better sexual pleasure. Core and lower back exercises also help with genital stimulation during sex.
  5. Use sex toys.This is a great way to jump start back into the sensations that you want to feel. Sex toys help with focus and spice things up in the bedroom.

At the end of the day, it’s about feeling comfortable in the bedroom. If you don’t feel good about yourself—whether it be based upon how you look or feel—it can affect your sexual desire. Hopefully these simple steps will get you back into living a fulfilling sex life and also a healthier you!


With more than 25 years of clinical study, professional practice and industry leadership under his belt, Dr. Ken Taylor is committed to exposing the disconnects and bridging the divides that are keeping women and men living at a fraction of their physical, emotional and sexual wellness. He is a member of the Atlanta Medical Association, Georgia Medical Association and the National Medical Association, and has been recognized by Who’s Who of Atlanta and the Top 25 Atlanta Doctor rankings. For more information about Dr. Taylor, visit is website:  www.drtkentaylor.com