The Princess Kate Diaries: 5 Must-Do’s When You Love a Real Prince

By Josie Brown

On Friday, April 29, 2011, commoner Kate Middleton will take the vows that will wed her to the second in line to the British royal thrown, Prince William of Wales.

She won his heart in anything but the old-fashioned way: which, by definition, is being of royal blood herself–and chosen, perhaps even by birth, by his royal family, in order to secure a dynasty.

My, how times have changed.

The prince and his fiancee met in college, became friends first, then confidants and roommates, before falling in love.

Just the fact that she may not even be a virgin shows how modern this real life fairy tale is.

If the same rules had applied thirty years prior–when Prince William’s mother married his father, Charles, Prince of Wales–her tragic ending may have never occurred.

Then again, she may never had caught his eye in the first place, as he already been married his long-time lover Camilla Shand (then Parker-Bowles).

Will Princess Kate keep a diary? Let’s all hope so. And if so, here’s hoping she stays true to her own modest roots and tells it like it is, warts and all, as to what it’s like to live in a castle with a real live prince.

One way to stay true to her relationship to Prince William is to do a few things that her predecessors who married into the family (Diana Spencer, for one) weren’t able to do: be true to herself.

In that regard, here are a few suggestions for keeping this marriage real as opposed to “storybook”:

1. Always talk through your issues.
Don’t hold back in expressing your concerns, issues, or questions. And certainly don’t let others speak for you. The bond you share is only as strong as the love and trust you share. Always remember: if you have to hold your tongue or speak through others, you will never be heard.

2. Give each other some space–but come back together.
We all need space from our spouses. Royals are no different. But at the end of the day, coming together to share your experiences and perspectives makes the heart grow fonder, and secures the love you share.

3. Make love, not war.
Stay intimate. The best reason to do so: men open up after sex.  That said,  don’t withhold love as a weapon. At the same time, never use sex as a reward. It’s the quickest way to lose his trust. Once you do, you’ll have a hard time regaining it–if you ever do.

4. Keep your goals in sync.
Yes, he lives a unique life. You knew that going into it. If it isn’t your cuppa, speak up now, or forever hold your peace. And yes, the same goes for him: he fell in love with you because you are one in a million. Love, honor and respect goes both ways.

5. Treat your spouse as your best friend.
You will trust your best friend. You will be there for them, especially during hard times. You will be honest with your closest confident. The fact that he is a future heir to the throne should not intimidate you. It is just as important that he hold onto your trust as it is for him to hold onto yours.  Together, you’ve sworn to a lifetime of love. When all is said and done, that is the most important thing in the world.



Josie Brown is’s Relationships Channel Editor. Her most recent novel, Secret Lives of Husbands and Wives, is in bookstores everywhere.

Her next novel, The Baby Planner, is  in bookstores now. You can read an excerpt here…

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