Sex and the SMW: “Why do I attract men who can’t commit?”

By Josie Brown

pic1Let’s get this straight: Of all the gin joints in all the towns in all the world, Mr. Ambivalent walks into yours, and yours alone?

Nope you’ve got it all wrong. ‘Fess up, dollface: you’re just as attracted to this Nowhere Man as he is to you.

That’s okay. You’re not alone. In fact, here are the three most prevalent reasons a woman will end up playing Wendy to a Peter Pan:

Reason #1: You grew up around another Non-Committal.
Maybe it was your dad. Or perhaps too many men in your mom’s life came and went through a revolving door. Or maybe she found it hard to stay true blue to one guy. Good, bad, or indifferent, your parents are your role models. If this is yours, it’s to break the mold.

Reason #2: You don’t feel worthy of a great guy.
As accomplished as you are in the other parts of your life, you may feel insecure about what you have to offer in a relationship. So you give little—and expect less in return. That’s too bad, because you deserve more. Why not seek out the guys who are willing to give it to you?

Reason #3: You aren’t ready to grow up yourself.
For whatever reason, you aren’t ready to commit to a relationship. Maybe you’ve been hurt before, and you’re afraid it will happen again. Or maybe you’ve seen others—a close friend, a family member—get burned. Or maybe you’re afraid that the fun will stop if you “settle down.” Whatever the reason, if you really want things to change, you’ll need to change, too.

Here’s the good news: By now acknowledging this attraction, you’ll sidestep any future desire to run into the arms of another Mr. Never—

—And perhaps find Mr. Always instead.

Because you deserve a man who is willing to put it all on the line for you.

Got a questions? Email Josie here…