Sex Survey: Is He Good in Bed?

By Josie Brown

You came…or did you?

If not, maybe it’s time you slipped your significant other the April 2011 issue of Men’s Health. At least one lad mag wants to know what sexual maneuvers leave you panting for more

So that if he (has the nerve to) ask if he’s good in bed, you can answer: “Yes! Yes! Yes!”

In a recent survey, Men’s Health asked nearly 1,900 women to find out what they thought on foreplay. Results found that 68 percent of women say that  great foreplay is very important for her orgasms.

In response,  Men’s Health came up with these three sexy tips, which will appear in the magazine’s April issue. The tips are italicized. My addenums are in bold

#1: Clear Her Mind –

Foreplay begins hours before you actually move to the bedroom. Engage her mind and eliminate messy distractions, like dirty dishes, to make sure she’s focused on you.

Do this: Let the compliment sink in. Flirt with your woman to make her feel sexy in a deep and meaningful way; if your compliments are hot, she will be too.

And this: Sext with specifics. Naughty text messages will put her in the mood, especially if your messages are descriptive. If she plays along, increase your sexting’s explicit nature to build tension.

You had me at “eliminate distractions.” If that means he’ll put away his iPad and move out of view of his new 52-inch HD flatscreen, I’m already panting. Naughty texts work, too. Guys, just don’t Facebook them up by mistake.

Priority #2: Mix it Up –

Variety is an aphrodisiac. Engage in different sex acts to increase her chances of obtaining an orgasm.

Do this: Reach her mind. Figure out what she’s into by purchasing erotic books to inspire sultry ideas.

And this: Tell her – between caresses – how hot she is. Women who feel more confident about their appearance below the belt are more likely to experience orgasm – compliment the view to make her feel sexy.

Bravo on this tip! I’m panting already! And yes, caresses and compliments are the icing on a delicious beefcake. Keep it (us?) coming…


Priority #3: Take Your Time – And Make It Count –

Don’t rush: draw out foreplay to increase lust. This also allows your woman’s body to rev up its natural lubrication.

Do this: Explore her with your hands. Warm her up by moving your finger inside her in circles, rather than using the practiced in-and-out motion. This causes her to expand a few inches, making sex more pleasurable for both of you.

And this: Engage her breasts. 82% of women say that their breasts are an arousal zone. Touch, kiss, and caress all parts of her breasts to increase sensitivity and arousal.

For sure, sex is a hands-on experience. No wham-bam-thank-you-ma’ms are appreciated. Guys, the happier we are, the happier you’ll be, too. We’ll make sure of that.


This link has more  helpful tips, and Men’s Health survey results.

Ladies, it’s your turn: Did Men’s Health get it right? Comment below on which of these suggestion rings your chime, or what it could of suggested that may make a man an even better lover.  From your comments, we’ll choose a winner for a copy of The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Finding Mr. Right.


Josie Brown is’s  Relationships channel editor.

She is also the author of SECRET LIVES OF HUSBANDS AND WIVES,, soon to be a dramatic television series on ABC, produced by Jerry Bruckheimer.



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