Single Celebrity Relationships: What We Can Learn From Them

By Josie Brown

Falling in love is an intimate experience-unless you’re a celebrity.

Getting jilted is one thing. Being kicked to the curb in the flashbulb glare of the tabloid paparazzi is every woman’s worst nightmare. Here’s what we mere mortals can learn from celebrity relationships, both good and bad:

Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt…

The Good: It’s inevitable that sparks will fly in the workplace. That’s how Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt met in the first place, right?

But after all the drama, the true test of coupledom is what happens in the long term.

And the most obvious obstacle course is a job takes one of out of the other’s orbit. In the case of Brangelina, those times are few and far between. Even on location,  they make time for each other-and for their growing family.

The Bad: A two-career family can wear and tear down any relationship. And when there are kids involved (not to mention lots of them), if both partners aren’t into parenting, then things can fall out-pretty fast, and pretty ugly.

The Reality Check: A great relationship is a support system: It’s always got to be the two of you, in sync. And sometimes it’s even the two of you against the world. In that regard, the give-and-take of the Jolie/Pitt union has made even the naysayers take notice-and in some cases, applause.

 

…as opposed to Kate Hudson and Owen Wilson. 

The Good: Mutual attraction is always a given in a relationship. Great sex makes things all the sweeter. And (as with Kate Hudson and Owen Wilson) if he has a quirky sense of humor that complements your own, then it’s a match made in heaven….

The Bad: …Or, is it? The things that may attract you initially-like that deliciously dark wit, or that fact that he’s a high profile partner-may repel you over time. Particularly if it evidences a lack of emotional balance. The bottom line: he’ll never be able to commit.

The Reality Check: With children come adult responsibilities. It’s one thing to be a mom to your son. It’s another to have to play mom to your boyfriend. Smart women look for supportive, mature men.

They also seek to avoid making the same mistakes, over and over again. That said, is Kate’s newest beau, Lance Armstrong, in it for the long haul, or the celebrity notoriety?

Only time will tell. But if it turns out their coupling fizzles instead of sizzles, Kate needs to reconsider her priorities, too. Is she looking for a paparrazzi-worthy date, or does she want to follow in mom Goldie Hawn’s footsteps, and find a committed mate?

 

Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee . . .

The Good: It’s always great when soul mates find each other. And of course, love and lust are always a wonderful combination..

The Bad: …unless one partner is prone to flirting (like Pamela Anderson), or can’t be monogamous-and the other is always jealous (like Tommy Lee).

The Reality Check: Tommy Lee was quoted recently in Rolling Stone for rhapsodizing about his on again/off again/ on again and again relationship with his (twice) ex this way: “Pamela and the kids have moved in with me. It’s awesome, man. It’s definitely working. You can tell on the kids’ faces – they’re happy when we’re together… We’ve only given it a try 800 times-801, here we go.”

We’ll keep our fingers crossed for you, Tommy. And pray that the sparks between Pamela and Las Vegas magician Criss Angel lose some of their heat. But our gut tells us that, eventually, you’ll just have to face up to the fact that it’s never going to work, no matter how much electricity flows between you. Why? Because lasting love takes commitment, both physical and emotional-from both of you.

 

…as opposed to Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins.

The Good: Intellect, and a commitment to big issues are two traits that Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins find attractive in each other-besides the obvious physical attraction. (The film Bull Durham is proof that their chemistry translates well onscreen, too…)

The Bad: Sometimes a big age difference can test a relationship. The fact the there is a twelve-year age spread between Sarandon and Robbins, and that they are both in a high-profile industry, could easily have been the one-two punch to bring down this union.

The Reality Check: Sarandon and Robbins’ relationship has been tried and true through twenty years and two children. It just goes to show that maturity isn’t a matter of age. It’s a matter of action.

 

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Josie Brown is a novelist, and the Relationships Channel Editor for SingleMindedWomen.com. Along with her husband, Martin, she is the author of The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Finding Mr. Right  [ September 2009]