Talk Sexy To Me: How Your Tone Turns Him On

By Josie Brown

New research findings show that in attracting a potential mate, sometimes it’s not what a woman says, but when you say it.

In a study done by R. Nathan Pipitone and Gordon G. Gallup Jr. of the State University of New York at Albany of 50 undergraduate women, it was during their menstrual cycles that the women’s pre-recorded voices were deemed the most attractive, by 34 men and 32 women.

To ensure that it wasn’t what they were saying that was the turn-on, the researches had the women speak about mundane topics, such as counting from one to ten.

So, what made their voices so sexy? The researchers have come to the conclusion that it may have to do with the fact that the larynx changes both its shape and size in response to hormones related to reproduction.

If that’s the case, then such deliciously dulcet tones come around once every 28 days or so, and last at the most six or seven—and that’s only for pre-menopausal women.

Too few and far between, you say?  So that you’ll hit those come-hither high notes on days when bloating and cramping aren’t part of the experience, pucker up to these tips:

1. Lower your voice (the sound level).
Softer voices are sexier. Besides, whispering entices him lean in to hear you—and get a whiff of your sensuality as well. Hey, it worked for Marilyn Monroe, right?

2. Lower your voice (the tone register).
For better tone, don’t speak through your nose, but from your diaphragm.

3. Talk slower and put emphasis on key words.
It’s exactly what you learned in your high school theater class: by choosing your words carefully, you can move others (hopefully, into your bedroom).

4. It’s okay to be provocative.
The best flirts don’t tease or taunt blatantly, but use their wits. Insightful irony is sexy.

5. Don’t giggle.
You’re not a silly girl. Your a sensual woman. So sound like one. Develop a throaty chuckle that tantalizes him.

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Josie Brown is the Relationship Channel editor for She is also the co-author (along with her husband, Martin) of THE COMPLETE IDIOT’S GUIDE TO FINDING MR. RIGHT, the perfect self-help manual for your BFF (…okay, and for you, too).

Josie’s next book is the novel SECRET LIVES OF HUSBANDS AND WIVES, in bookstores June 1, 2010. Previous novels include  IMPOSSIBLY TONGUE-TIED, and TRUE HOLLYWOOD LIES.