Valentine’s Day Isn’t Only for Cupid’s Bow and Arrow

By Sheryl Kayne

anti valentines dayFebruary is love month.  I love love.  It’s the relationships part that often gets confusing.  I was dating a guy I was having some problems with and he snapped at me, “What do you know about how relationships work? All of yours have failed.”

His statement made me pause for a few minutes, while I put together the right words for him, which started with, get lost.  Too often people get hung up on coupled relationships as the only “real” relationships that count. Not true, there are all kinds of relationships. I have a fantabulous relationship with my mom, daughters, and lots of friends. Just because I had a marriage that didn’t work doesn’t make me a relationship failure, quite the opposite.

Love, relationships and Valentine’s are about connecting, loving and caring, not just couples, flowers, and candy. I hate flowers that die and those huge heart boxes filled with chocolates.   I can’t resist taking a little bite out of every piece of chocolate to discover what’s inside and then after all of them are bitten, I have to gobble them up so no one will know what I did.

The really best gift (besides of course the homemade cards and cooked meals prepared by my children) I have ever received on Valentine’s Day  was  created on a whim and became a family tradition.

Valentine’s Day fell  on a Friday afternoon. I picked my children up from school and told them we were having an evening full of surprises.

I took them to a one room schoolhouse museum we’d never visited before in a town only 10 minutes away, then we stopped at a park, and went out to dinner together. It was so much fun that we started having Valentine’s Day once a month. As the girls got older and began to drive, we all took turns planning the surprises.  The challenge was always including something new that we hadn’t done before. One time I bought us each a box of animal crackers and we visited a nearby petting zoo. So this Valentine’s Day, if my girls aren’t around, I’ll surprise a friend or a relative or someone I’d like to get to know better.  It’s amazing how many new and different activities there are all around that we hardly ever have time to explore.

Sheryl Kayne is the author of IMMERSION TRAVEL USA: THE BEST & MOST MEANINGFUL VOLUNTEERING, LIVING & LEARNING EXCURSIONS and VOLUNTEER VACATIONS ACROSS AMERICA . Read more about Sheryl at her website: www.immersiontraveler.com.

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